One year ago today we sat before a beautiful, Ethiopian
judge in a small, modest courtroom in Addis Ababa. She peered at the picture of
our sons before her. We watched her face light up with a sweet smile and she
said to us, “They look so happy”. I remember watching my surroundings become foggy
as my eyes welled with tears. I knew it was a mixture of emotions ranging from
simple physical exhaustion to mental weariness to complete elation. We had already
been asked on penalty of perjury if we had spent time with our boys; if we
liked them; if we knew that this process would make them our sons forever…
irrevocably; and if we still wanted to adopt these two little boys and make
them Gregersens forever. It was as simple as responding, “Yes. Yes. Yes…” Just
like that, our family grew by two more children!
Today I recall the knowledge that our day in court
was simply a mere glimpse and “notch” on the stick in what had already been set
in place – and time – by God Almighty. Simon Getinet and Elijah Bizuneh had
been planned and destined for our family since before they were formed in their
dear birth mama’s womb. The same Father God that adopted me when I was yet a
wretch gave me the privilege of living the gospel through earthly adoption. Oh,
how I pray that He is glorified through our family!
There is yet much healing to take place and thankfully I’ve
met with peace knowing that the healing is not mine to accomplish. It’s all
about God and his saving work. What is the gospel? It’s the truth! Jesus lived
a perfect, sinless life and then gave that life as ransom for us, the true
sinners. He died the death of a criminal; suffering beyond belief and spilling
righteous blood on my behalf. And that wasn’t the end of the story! He stepped
out of the tomb, alive and exalted, in a glorified heavenly body! He did this
for us so we can be with Him forever, with His Father in heaven. Amazing grace
and mercy! How sweet indeed.
Healing is a process; longer for some than others, but it
comes. In God’s timing, it comes. It may not always look like what we want it
to look like, but when He reveals it… Wow. It is way more beautiful and timely
than we could ever imagine. Healing here has been a journey. It is happening in
spurts. In seasons. In mysterious moments and words. In joy and humor. And always
in love. The love I feel for my youngest sons runs so deep… The only way to
explain it is to assure all you mamas out there that the love is truly the same
as if my two youngest grew in my womb. There
are times I forget that we “look different”. I don’t know that I even notice
looks or comments anymore. I’m just not there right now. What I notice are the
times when Rhyan, our 15 yr old daughter sits with 5 yr old Eli to work on a
puzzle, and when Ty, our 12 yr old takes Simon, our 7 yr old, out to the
backyard to work on his catching or play whiffle ball. I see the sparkle in
everyone’s eyes when we crack jokes at the dinner table and even our two
littles get it! I find rest and hope in the hugs, kisses, “I love you”s, thumbs
up, brother handshakes, piggy back rides up the stairs…
The truth is that one year ago today, my boys met
face-to-face with the gospel. They were adopted by a daddy and mommy who loved
them simply because we love. Not because they did anything to earn our love.
There was no “work” or “task” for them to accomplish. They didn’t ask us to
adopt them. It was all our choice. They had absolutely nothing to do with it!
They didn’t even know us. We reached out to them and drew them near. We brought
them into the fold, just as our Good Shepherd brought us in. We chose to bring
them into our family, just like God chose to make us His own, by no striving or
asking of our own.
So, now we reflect on what that means for our family. When
God saved me, He set me apart. I’m no better than anyone else. I’m still a
sinner, BUT I’m now clothed in His righteousness and others should know that by
my fruit. I’ve been filled with the power and comfort of the Holy Spirit and in
Him I leave behind the darkness, death and misery of a life without Jesus. And
our sons? They’ve been set apart too! They’ve been drawn into the Gregersen
Family. They’ve been called out to leave behind the loneliness, grief, despair,
and emptiness of life as orphans. The past is gone! A new life has begun! Just
as God calls us to the light and beauty of a new life in Him, I believe we can
expect the same transformation from our children – all in God’s timing. The old
must pass away and the new life as Americans and Gregersens brings beauty, joy,
and glory to their Savior, Jesus Christ.
In no way do we wish to forget or dishonor the birth country
of our boys. We love Ethiopia and the people who call it home. It’s funny that as the one year anniversary of
us meeting our boys has come upon us, our little Eli has finally begun to talk
about Ethiopia and ask questions about his birth father. He literally NEVER
vocalized anything before 5 days ago. Ever. Every day since June 6th
(the day in 2013 we learned we were cleared to travel to meet the boys!) he has
asked about going on an airplane together again, and why his birth father is
sad, and how come there isn’t fun stuff in Ethiopia. There it is. More healing!
He is releasing the ties he has to his birth country in what I believe is a
healthy and honest way. We love talking to him and Simon about our adoption. We
love telling them how blessed we are to be chosen as their mom and dad and
family. We love knowing that their birth father gave us his blessing and
gratitude and that we can tell our boys how much we love him too. And to
reassure them that they don’t have to cut off the love they have for their
birth parents is healing for all of us. They can enjoy the gift that God gave
them of having two earthly moms and dads!
We continue to pray that through adoption our children get
to relive the gospel each day. In their hearts and minds, they need to be aware
of the fact that they are new creations. They don’t have to live as if they are
in the pit anymore. And truthfully, we won’t accept that as an excuse for
behaviors that reflect lost souls. They are lost no more. God’s children – all of
us – can rest assured that He strengthens and equips us to live the life He calls
us to.
Thank you for praying for us. Thank you for partnering with
us in so many ways throughout the past year. Thank you that even when you may
not have agreed or understood why or when or how, you were still there. Thank
you for still being there. We are humbled at the knowledge of the friends and
family God has brought into our lives and the ways He has made you all a part
of our story. He writes every story, and we are honored to have all of you
written in our book, and to be in each of your story books in that immense,
amazing library in His heavenly mansion. J
Yes, I believe there is one of those in heaven! And that gets a resounding, “AMEN!”
Grace and Peace to You Always,
Patty